Your Friends and Those That Love You

Choosing Your Friends and Those You Love

Summary Part 1 of this article.

In part we questioned whether the natural protection a mother shows to her child or a buddy to a buddy is an obstacle to success in life. In this article we asked a few questions and in part 2 we will answer those questions.

Part 2.

Succeeding Despite Those Who Care:

Now we’ll take a look at why friends and those you love seem to constantly offer negativity when you try to explain a project that will help drive you the success you seek. They do so because they love you and want to protect you, certainly not because they have any expertise concerning what you wish to do. Their natural reaction is to give you reasons why this project could fail, how much money you could lose and plant the very seeds of failure into your mind at a time when you need it least.

What we must do to protect our chances of achieving the success that is within each of us is to either not seek their comments until our success is accomplished or take their comments lightly as well meaning but uninformed. As such you can discard all negative comments because their negativity does not help you, it hinders you.

People do not like to see you move outside of your, or their, comfort zone because they have built much around the status quo that exists within that comfort zone.

I can quote a personal case when a friend used to call in to visit my family once or twice each week for some years. We were close and sometimes dined out or visited the theatre together. They lived in a similar house in the same estate. Then we moved house – less than a mile but to a bigger house in a more prestigious part of town. It was some years before I met up with my friend again and I asked if I had done anything to upset her. She replied: “I didn’t think you’d have time for people like us now that you’re mixing with the big end of town.” - That statement really hurt because I was still the same person and my family hadn’t changed; we had tried to contact this lady several times and always sent birthday and Christmas cards. What had happened was we had moved outside of her comfort zone and she held a grudge because of it.

It is human nature to reject change because it is human nature to cling to comfort zones. For instance: - Why do down and outs congregate together?

- Why do people with drink problems congregate and befriend each other?

- Why do people that are going through a tough patch in life seem to group together?

- Why do people with a cash problem seem to attract each other?

Could it be that they find that by being in a group of peers with the same problems they justify their situation?

All of these actions are counter to success because success, by the very nature of the word, is based upon moving from one comfort zone and creating another and then moving from that zone to another and so until you achieve your goal. So choosing your friends and those that you love, or love you is just as mobile as the various comfort zones you will move through on your quest for success.


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